Anger and Recovery

To thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
thou canst not then be false to any man.

A young acquaintance of mine was recently dumped by her significant other who apparently decided that he, age 37, no longer needed or wanted her, age 25, in his life. She was taken quite by surprise by all this and of course was hurt. I offered the following by way of support, with the caveat that advice is worth exactly what you pay for it. I have edited out two words to respect her privacy:

“I wish I had some recovery type advice that might be useful to you. The only thoughts I have to offer are that it’s better it happened now than 5 years from now and that if you look deep inside yourself at the vital woman you are, you will discover that he did not deserve a person such as you as a partner.

It’s OK, in fact it’s healthy for you I think, to be a little angry about this. Anger can be destructive if it gets out of control but a little bit is good and is restorative for the soul.

I remember looking at your little tag line that you use on the board, “I belong to ****” and being a little disturbed by it. I believe that we only belong to ourselves and that especially applies to women who are still blanketed, in many cases smothered, by the vestiges of a male dominated society. Anything which detracts from your humanity and your ability to live the potential filled life that you deserve is wrong. You may give of yourself as you choose but no one has a right to take anything from you.

Keep faith with yourself and you will certainly find the life that you deserve. You owe yourself and your Creator not one iota less.

Thinking of you and hoping that the healing has begun.”

Re-reading this I realized I may well have been giving myself advice…..

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it…. posted by: JimBrodhead | 1 comments (view/add) StaticLink eSend